Here it goes:
I have been with a man for five years now. We have a four-year-old daughter. He has gotten worse over the years. He plays PS3 video games non-stop and does not hear what I say, nor does he want to talk about anything serious. When I say I will leave or kick him out, he brushes it off.
He has never been one to keep a job very long and is not working now. Except he has an excuse for right now—he had back surgery in August, and they say it could be three to four months before he can work, depending on what it is, and if the surgery worked. He doesn’t come to bed at the same time as me, stays up on the game, and sleeps until the afternoon. He sleeps on the sofa half the time, saying he is hurting, while I get up at 6 a.m. to get our daughter ready for school.
I understand he had surgery and everything, but I am not happy anymore. I just don’t get enough attention; a lot of things I say goes in one ear and out the other.
It would also be a fight with him for me to leave since he always denies it when I say something about it. I have told him what he can do that will make me happy, like get rid of the game system since he seems to have an addiction. He will not do any of it. I can’t get him to help around the house. I have to fuss for days and stress myself out.
Now, something else has come into my life the past couple weeks and this is where I probably need the most advice.
There is another man that I went out with for a very short time in high school (one month maybe). He broke up with me to date other people, but we broke up on good terms. We have not talked for maybe six or more years. Now, all of a sudden he sends me a friend request on here. We chat a while, and he realizes I am not happy with who I am with. I tell him all the trouble we are having. He wants to be with me. He has a stable career and an apartment. He says that if I give him a chance, he will not let me down. He knows he can make me happy. He says that breaking up with me was one of the biggest mistakes he has ever made.
I want to be happy, and I know I am not here. Only sometimes. I am actually considering leaving here for this man. I feel like I may have lost my mind, or that I am being selfish, since my boyfriend had surgery. However, things were slightly like this before the surgery.
I am worried about doing all the breakup arrangements. Changing my daughter’s school, addresses, packing, and the worse part, him trying to stop me.
Me and this old high school friend have talked about a lot of things, and he sounds like he will do whatever it takes to make sure that I am happy. But I am so scared to leave, and so scared of the changes that will occur.
Do you have any advice for me?