Your life starts and ends with you, the architect. You have artfully crafted whatever you have in your life, yourself. Are you happy with it? Is your life a canvas of inspired intentional creation or a collage of mishaps and hodgepodge incidents that have happened in between your vast unknowing of what you want?
If you find that you’re living more as a victim of circumstance, then read on.
Five Strategies for Getting Your Intention in Gear
1. Know your priorities well. The top five things that are of utmost important to me are my relationships, my diet and fitness practice, my spiritual/personal growth, my authentic career direction, and my environment. Everything else, including vacations, fashion, current events, what I drive, and how my hair looks on any given day, takes a back seat to those priorities, as they are what makes me most happy. It doesn’t mean that nothing else matters, but when I have to choose carefully—these are the elements of my life that get scheduled first, and are most heavily invested in.
2. Dream … a lot. According to psychologist Dr. Denis Waitley, “Dreams and goals are previews of coming attractions in your life. You are the scriptwriter, the star performer, and the producer of either an Oscar-winning epic, or a grade-B movie that someone else wrote and directed for you.” This statement pretty much says it all, right?
3. Write your goals down. While you’re at it, write them in complete detail, and as if they’ve already happened. Studies show that only 3 percent of the American population set goals consistently, and are among the wealthiest people in the country.
4. Give your inner critic a project. My “inner Cruella-the-critic” loves to poke holes in my dreams and goals. She loves to tell me what I can’t do, and she lets me know when my ideas are ridiculous (which is pretty much all the time). So set aside some time to dream without judgment. Reassure your Cruella she can have her say once you’ve got your list of dreams down on paper. Then use Cruella in a controlled/constructive manner as a feedback tool to help you navigate what’s important and worth defending, and what’s not. She’s only looking out for you, after all.
5. Move easily in the direction of your desires. You don’t have to make huge life altering moves all at once in order to chase a dream or achieve a goal. I’ve started to “lean into” things and take a slow, but intentional approach to creating what I want. I have always lived with this “go big or go home” mentality and I’ve found that it’s so overwhelming that I often just give up before I even start. Now I tend to make small conscious choices that bring me closer to my goals just by being aware of when decisions are taking place (like just before I pick up that piece of chocolate). I simply ask myself, does this bring me closer to my goals? If it does, great, but if it doesn’t, I’ll reconsider my choice. Unless it’s chocolate, which is typically always a “yes.”