My great aunt Irenká, who kept up her psychiatric practice until she was ninety-three, used to say that men are “visual animals” and women “auditive animals”. When relationships were in crisis, the men complained that women let themselves go to seed and the women said the men used uncouth language.
I experience the same concerning the seeing and hearing.
So, all signals sent out by women should be seen by men. Now, if a woman knows how to move her body, i.e., with grace and self-confidence, and knows how to dress herself to catch the eye of the type of man she is looking for, then it doesn’t matter if she is big, big, small, slim, young, or old; she is on the way to “hook” him.
However, there is the matter of scent! That can become irresistible. There are different products on the market nowadays. What really works is when the scent is compatible to the woman’s own body “odour” (Let’s spell it the British way so you can keep your mind off any connotations referring to odor.) When the correct mixture and the proper dose are smelled by a man, then his resistance is smelt (molten away)!
A woman may want to get help from a professional perfumer for that. Best if a man, because he’ll be able to test the reaction, professionally, on himself first.
Positioning: the craft (skill) for both senses lays in the correct distance of where you place the bait—as it is for most traps. Woman, you just need to cruse outside his intimate distance and never, never be right in front of him! Front-to-front may be an invitation for women; for men it means confrontation. (Our instincts are still in the Stone Ages. A tale told elsewhere at another time.). The prey, and the enemy, is always in the front (like at war).
Get to his side, the shoulder connection, the side of his teammates, of the hunting party. And be attentive that the wind (draft) carries to him your scent.
Women, please accept (perhaps just for now, if not otherwise) that a man’s brain is wired differently than a woman’s—it is both the “software” and the “hardware,” which is different.
Again, in a nutshell, during the Stone Ages the hunter (men) had to concentrate up front to catch the prey, watchful for hand and body signals from his mates and be totally silent otherwise he would frighten away the food for his family and the tribe. To be perceptive for relationship signals were (and still are) just distractions for what his most important task is to provide for his family and his job. That is also a reason why men will talk less than women do—especially in a crisis.
On the other hand, the women mainly taking care of the children in the camp and doing the household tasks were sensitive to the known hub of sounds, respectively to the hub-bub of danger. Their radar, receptivity of relationships between all mothers and children in their near and far vicinity, had to be circumambient, encompassing. That’s why, when a woman comes into a room, she immediately senses which man has this relationship with which woman. (You better believe this, my fellow men! You may get lynched.)
Only a well-trained professional, man, in this area of expertise may (repeat may) be able to do the same. A normal man lacks this ability!
Oh, man! I did get carried away. Perhaps you also read my blog on Sacred Prostitution . There’s more man and woman stuff there. Anyway, “Buona serra! Kiss me good night!” (Not YOU, mate!)