Poor Beta Jerry is a wonderful person. He is compassionate, helpful, gentle, and always willing to lend an ear to all the people who abuse him as an outlet for the stresses of life. He spends hours patiently listening to the latest story of his workmate about how she was humped and dumped by an Alpha-male jerk. Jerry unfailingly smiles and comforts the women who come to him with complaints about other men they slept with, even though these women never realize that Jerry has a penis. The women call him an angel; the players call him a loser.
He is tallish, slim, and a bit on the effeminate side but good looking. He has a good, stable career and a respectable professional life, though not on any fast track to become a millionaire. He cooks and knows his restaurants. He has a passionate love for art and culture and always has something interesting to talk about. In short, he is the sort of Beta-male that women always talk about wanting to date but never do.
One time, at the urging of a friend, he was set up for a dinner date with a woman he never met. Jerry reserved a table at a casual but good restaurant, paid attention to all the details and of course he picked up the tab. And of course it was a failure as usual. At one point in the date, the woman asked him if he had ever been married. Jerry said yes, but he would rather not talk about it because it was their first date and it would become the predominant impression the woman got from him since she knew nothing else about him. His date insisted on knowing exactly why his previous marriage failed. Jerry honestly answered that he had been cuckolded. He was eager to become a good bread earner and he was often away on business. His short-time wife used the opportunity to take on a new lover. Jerry’s date was not satisfied with the answer and insisted on knowing why his wife started dating someone else. He gave the only answer he believed to be true. The other guy was the better man. He was taller, better built, more handsome, and richer. He had the animal magnetism of the prototypical Alpha-male. “There was a huge gap between me and him and I was under the illusion that love would fill that gap. I was wrong,” said Jerry. Jerry’s marriage had ended bitterly. He did not deserve it, but he often said that he wished he did. “I wish I had been unfaithful or a drunk, so I’d know it was the reason she left.” He repeated this to his date, and she excused herself to the restroom and never returned.
Jerry showed up at work next Monday and politely thanked his friend for introducing him to the date. When asked how the date went, he said, “We’ll see when she calls back.” Several people had since set him up on dates based on the false belief that a nice guy like Jerry could not possibly finish last. The dates never work out and Jerry invariably goes back to sharing coffee with women who use him to unload their frustrations with the Alpha males they date. Jerry has uncanny insight about his predicament. He says, “Women want a Beta-male relationship with an Alpha-male mate.” Many of those women think he is an angel and it will not be long before the next woman will try to set Jerry up with someone other than themselves.