Many of my clients come to me wanting to get a handle on their emotions. Buddhists often refer to thoughts/feelings run amuck as “monkey mind.” While I am a proponent of feeling your feelings (in fact, Carl Jung said, “All neurosis is a substitute for legitimate suffering”), when the monkey is driving the car, we feel like we are on a crazy ride.
Most, if not all, of our emotions gone wild are caused by dualistic thinking. “Does he like me? Maybe he doesn’t like me!” “Am I okay as am?” or “Am I inadequate?” However, the mind cannot serve two masters. We may tend to jump back and forth between two thoughts or feelings, making ourselves, and probably those around us, feel unnerved.
For those of us who believe in a higher power, as soon as we become aware of this dualistic thinking, we may want to have a higher thought at the ready. So for example, if we are fussing about a romantic relationship, we may want to think a thought that aligns us with God such as, “God, I turn this situation over to you so that you may guide all parties involved to our highest good.” If you find yourself slipping back into nagging dualistic thinking, as soon as you have the awareness, turn it over to God again. You may have to do this a hundred times a day. With discipline and vigilance in watching your thoughts and feelings closely, you will begin to make change (quantum change—no doubt).
I once heard Marianne Williamson say that when she had hardship in her life she would get on her knees and cry out to God. After that problem resolved she would find herself back down on her knees with another challenge, trying to align with the thoughts of God. Finally, she realized, that maybe (metaphorically) she should stay down on her knees. In terms of dualistic vs. Divine thinking, she knew it would be wiser for her to stay as completely aligned as possible with Divine thinking as all times.