If you are a single lady, chances are you have envisioned your “dream guy.” He’s that perfect guy that’s handsome, smart, funny, and altogether well-rounded. Though they may be few and far between, dream guys do exist, you just have to know how to get them. You must ask yourself—what does your dream guy’s dream gal look like?
The answer is what I like to refer to as the Four Bs: Beauty, Brains, Body, and Balance. I will get into them more specifically below, but let me stress that possessing the Four Bs are possible for every woman without changing who she is. You never want to completely alter who you are as a person to get a man to like you; you simply want to be the best you can be without changing your identity. Simply take the information and apply it to yourself.
Whether you are looking to find a mate or not, we all should strive to be the best we can be for ourselves. It helps in achieving the life we desire and allows us to be better friends, spouses, co-workers, and family members.
The bottom line is that your dream guy wants a top notch gal, so be the best self you can be and you will easily get the guy of your dreams!
Let’s face it, men are sight-stimulated. Many studies suggest that a man has to be attracted to a girl the very first time they meet for the relationship to work out. We women are very different; we can become attracted to men solely because of their inner beauty after getting to know them. Take time for yourself. Go to the salon when you need grooming and take some time in the morning to put yourself together before you leave the house. People often meet their future spouses in peculiar places, so you want to be prepared. Not only does it go a long way in attracting a man, but it will give you confidence when he approaches you. Imagine you spot your dream guy across the room at a coffee shop. Picture yourself wearing sweats, no makeup, and your hair tucked under a ball cap. If he actually notices you and approaches you, how would you feel? Now imagine yourself a bit more pulled together. Wouldn’t you have more confidence?
Under the beauty category I must also mention inner beauty. Even though most males have some pig in them (it’s just how they are made), they still really appreciate inner beauty. Men hate the gossip and backstabbing that usually come along with females. Pay attention to your cattiness and always remember: volunteering never hurts.
Top-notch men want a woman with brains. Although some men are threatened by a woman who is smart, keep in mind these are most definitely not the top-notch men of your dreams, and you don’t want them. A man wants to know his woman is more than just a pretty face and can have intelligent conversations and run the household efficiently. I once read a statistic that a large majority of the western-world’s billionaires are married to women who have MBAs. Successful men want to know their spouses can contribute to the planning, strategizing, and managing of finances, schedules, and productivity of the family. Read a lot, keep up with what’s going on in the world, and learn everything you can!
Here we go again with the sight stimulation. Men want a woman who is in shape and takes care of her body. This doesn’t mean you have to have a body like Heidi Klum, but it does mean you should make being healthy part of your daily lifestyle. When a woman takes care of herself by eating right and exercising, it shows that she cares about herself. She makes health a priority and wants to be around for a long time to take care of her future family. It also is likely she will pass these habits on to her children.
Keep in mind, women are way more critical of their bodies than men are. Men tend to prefer women who look healthy and have some meat on their bones, so having a desirable body is probably easier than you think. Despite sounding like a broken record, your self-esteem soars when you feel good about the way you look (the endorphins from exercising and eating right never hurt either).
Finally, our last “B” is balance. Men want someone who is calm, cool, and collected for the most part. Achieving balance means not taking things to extremes. You want to be beautiful, but you don’t have to wear a face full of caked-on pageant makeup every day. You want to be healthy but that doesn’t mean you have to be a gym rat or never have dessert. Balance your dating life with other relationships in your life and work. Being balanced also means having spirituality and healthy ways of channeling energy such as yoga, meditation, or a hobby. Being balanced is having passions and conducting yourself with honesty and integrity in all that you do.
Remember, take the above tips to improve on your already incredible self. Never change who you are. Be the best you that you can be and watch how you naturally attract the man of your dreams!