Certain phrases just go all through me and make me shudder. They usually don’t involve profanity; it’s just the way the words are used annoy me. I have some examples of what not to say if you want to make my day!
1. “What’s-his-face” or “what’s-her-face.” I find this phrasing extremely distasteful. I think it shows a total lack of respect or disdain for the person who’s name eludes you.
2. “My gal.” If you have a cleaning woman, call her by her name or by the words “cleaning woman.” Referring to her as my gal is dismissive. She is not yours. You have hired this person’s services. This also applies to hairdresser’s, massage people, manicurists, and administrative assistants, and babysitters.
3. “A Maid,” as I do you have a maid, or I need a maid. Unless you live on an estate and have fifteen employees, do not use the word “maid” when you mean cleaning person. It’s demeaning. On the other hand, if you do live in a mansion and have a housekeeper and three maids and a cook, you probably are not hanging out with me in the first place.
4. “Woman’s Libber.” Oh give me a break. Calling someone a woman’s libber tells me more about you than it does that person. Yawn.
5. “Sweet” and “Cute.” Babies and pets can be referred to as sweet and/or cute. Houses should not be. Adult people should not be. If you are a teenager and think my car is just too cool for school, and you say to me “Sweeeeet!” I can accept that. Otherwise, just find some real words to use, such as “interesting,” “attractive,” “lovely,” “beautiful,” or “butt ugly.”
Thank you for your consideration.