You often hear that phrase so many times in life “Nice guys finish last,” why is that? My whole life, I’ve been a nice guy. I have often been described as being the “perfect boyfriend” and “any girl who marries you will be a very lucky girl.” Now my big question is, if that is indeed true, why do I always end up getting my heart broken?
My dad, as wise as he is, often mentioned that girls prefer a strong male type, now what has society now defined as a strong male type? Is it a man who:
- Treats his girlfriend badly
- Only has her on his arm to fulfill the desires of his “second brain”
- Is muscular and what I consider a meat head, and is generally trying to act cool in all situations
Why do girls seem to flock to somebody like that? Only to “think” they care for them but only to realize that they were treated badly in the first place. I guess its all down to the alpha male side of things. Being portrayed as macho and a real man seems to be what society deems the ideal mate. I consider myself a genuine, romantic, and caring man. I look after myself and consider myself a nice human being. In all my relationships, I have treated my partner as a princess, but being manly when I need to be. I have never cheated, never been horrible either. At what point do I try and perhaps change myself to seem more desirable to the opposite sex?
I know that there is supposedly somebody out there for everybody, but will there ever reach a point when woman will realize that the nice guys are the way to go? Perhaps its all down to how the media portrays the ideal man, and until that changes people like me will never really stand a chance.
In closing, all I ask is one question …
When will it be my turn, when will being a nice guy actually pay off?