When I started getting into relationships, I had the belief that proximity will make the bond I have with my boyfriend stronger. It does to a certain extent, but it is not the end-all and be-all of a relationship. Being together all the time is not an assurance that you will be together forever.
So why, amidst all this belief, do I find that I am in a better relationship with someone who’s thousands and thousands of miles away from me? The answer is simple…being in a long distance relationship has made me see the deeper value of having a special person in my life. You see, as human beings, we tend to overlook (more often than we realize) the worth of people (and things) around us because we think they’re always there and they will always be there … wrong!
For the most part, a long-distance relationship is no different … it’s still basically a relationship which needs nurturing from both parties. but what makes it more meaningful to me now is the fact that it has helped me develop and improve those behaviors and characteristics I’ve had in the past which only served to weaken, if not totally ruin my relationships.
TRUST: a long distance relationship is all about trust. It’s having that awareness that even if the other person would be none the wiser about what you do, you are compelled to act with wisdom about how you conduct yourself in your partner’s absence. This includes accepting “friendly dates” with new acquaintances, indulging in “harmless” flirtation with co-workers, etc.
PATIENCE: being on different time zones can be tricky because you’d want to stay in touch when both of you are awake. Sounds easy? Tell that to yourself when you’re so sleepy and he hasn’t called or gone online yet! It’s also all about knowing and understanding that while you can’t be together right now, there’s a right time when you soon will be!
CREATIVITY: if it weren’t for the net and the latest gizmos, I’d probably go crazy right now! LOL! In a long-distance relationship, you learn to think of ways to keep the relationship alive and well by spicing it up a bit from time to time. Notwithstanding the time factor in snail mail, you re-learn the art and beauty of writing your thoughts by hand and sending it to your loved one. You also exhaust all e-card sites to send little notes and quotes to remind the person that he is in your thoughts. and even if you’re not too fond of having your picture taken (like me), you’ll find yourself toting your camera all the time just to document moments you wish you two could have shared.
Having a long distance relationship is certainly not a bed of roses and I think it is not for everyone. but when you’re continents apart and you haven’t seen each other for a long time, arguing over petty stuff often takes a back seat to the knowledge that when you do get to see each other, hold each other and kiss … it just makes everything seem like the first time all the time!