I had a coffee date with a childhood friend last week and we got to talking about our kids growing up and the inevitable question of “what’s next.” So many women that I talk to, both clients and friends, seem to be wanting to put themselves in a new direction rather than go back to their professional life before kids.
Of course there are many sources to find great times about how to get yourself moving toward reinvention. Tips are always great, but how does one make it happen without falling into the abyss during the journey? In my experience, what really trips most of us up is the mental and emotional stuff.
The journey from where you are to where you want to be is not a 1-2-3 turn on the dime deal. Parts of the journey are murky with no clear sign if you’re even moving anywhere at all! This time of confusion and doubt can happen when we’re taking steps and holding onto our new vision without the buds of manifestation showing us visibly that anything is really happening. I like to think of this time on the journey as Winter.
Take a look at your own life for a moment. There may be one or even two areas of your life where you’re in Winter and other areas where you’re in Summer. Maybe you’ll notice that your financial situation and work are humming along. However, in your love/relationship sector you see that Winter is indeed here. Maybe you’ve recently connected with a new love in your life—you’re having fun and flirting with this possibility—but not totally sure yet if this is indeed what you’ve been waiting and looking for. Or perhaps you’re an entrepreneur working diligently on your business and wonder if your recent business building activities are the “right” ones to produce the results you need.
Winter is all about feeling around in the darkness. Know that as you grope and feel around without answers that there are other adventurers on their journey doing much the same. Courage is needed to stay with it and continue to ask yourself all of the open-ended questions that spring from your heart.