Ah, long-distance relationships. We all either know the feeling personally, know a friend who is or has been in one, or even just see them happen on TV all the time. In my case, I’m in one right now. And it’s not really the first time. Well, it is the first time where it’s actually worked out.
This article is mostly about the don’ts, but the dos are just as important.
Exchange phone numbers or e-mail addresses.
I cannot stress that enough! Without communication how are you supposed to keep up a relationship? Even through something like Facebook or even Youtube Mail would be better than absolutely nothing. If you happen to be in a relationship and you never talk, you should end it right now—oh wait! You can’t because you don’t see the other person! See what I’m saying?
Call, chat, and message often.
Again under the category of exchanging numbers. What’s the point of even doing that if you two can’t bother to talk or possibly even breathe on the phone? I’m not saying it has to be every night, but at least once a week usually is the minimum.
Meet up at least once every three months or so.
Sure communication is king, but there’s nothing like actually seeing your loved one’s face and being able to touch them once more. And when I say three months, I mean anything really within that time range. Just make a point to go out on an actual date, whether it be every month or every six months. However, if you wait longer than about six months, that’s not a good sign.
Wait for them.
Meaning that it’s alright if you call them first! Take the initiative, live a little! Chances are that they’re sitting by the telephone waiting for the ring, just like you are. Someone has to start a conversation, so why can’t it be you?
Even look at another potential mate.
Sure, it’s a long distance relationship. Sure, your partner won’t even know. But if you cheat, how are you going to respect yourself the next time you hear their voice on the phone? How are you going to live? I mean, if you have no conscience that’s fine, but shouldn’t you at least take into mind that your partner trusts you not to cheat?
Yes, I end with a staple of any relationship. Nice guys do finish first, and only girls with real problems like abusive guys. Basically, just be yourself. Everyone is good at heart, and if you can’t even show it in e-mail or on the phone, then obviously you don’t deserve anyone. Remember the golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated.