This may or may not be the right place to post this, but hey, this is my first article and its something I feel I should share with everyone here as I am 99.9 percent sure I’m not the only guy out there who has this minor yet irritable problem.
As for women, this could be an insight and I would more than be happy to hear your insight on this matter.
My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years. We click real well, our personalities match, and the sex is great, but as great as it is, there’s a few minor problems with it.
Since day one, our sex life had started off, like it would in many good relationships, fine, with a few minor set backs such as still trying to be comfortable naked around each other and what not. After several months when this all cleared, it was going great, but there was one thing lacking.
First, I am a giver, I like to make sure my girl, whoever she is, whether its a one night stand or a relationship, I want to leave a lasting impression on their minds and give them the best night they’ve ever had, pleasure wise of course. My first problem was my girlfriend was not too fond of receiving oral sex. Sure, there are some cases where the person has yet to experience it or has a reason why, but eventually it happened, while we were drunk one night and ever since, she has never turned back from receiving it. (Although she can go without it at times.)
At first this was fine but then we had a talk as I felt like I was giving more than I was receiving—which I was. We had a talk about it and after more months, it finally came out that she was still embarrassed to even grab me. Interesting? I would think that a woman who is willing to have sex, the whole home run, would not have a problem with grabbing it, clearly I was wrong.
So the topic expanded – I’m a guy, sexually, like women, we have needs and wants. Two years down the track I have yet to receive any kind of oral sex or physical touching in that manner. Her side is that I don’t understand her and that it’s not in her naturally to do it. My argument is, I was once a virgin and had no clue about anything; in fact, the first time I went down on a girl, I was absolutely terrible, I had no idea what the hell I was doing, and I am sure there is no one who can nail it first time round. So why is it that, naturally, I have never done anything before and after years of reading and several girls later, I am able to do a rather decent job? It wasn’t natural to me.
We continued to discuss things and she went on to say that she had a rough experience with an ex who woke her up trying to get some from her. Fair enough, that’s a tough thing to go through but I am not her ex, I treat her well, and I break my back and neck in every way possible to make sure she has an enjoyable time. And again, it was still that she had no idea how to do anything and that she doesn’t like to put things in her mouth.
Righto, so I said to her if she wants my support and help, I will give it, which is what she said. Funnily enough, I directed her to several sites, the last being this one, for articles to read. Her stubbornness is that if she agrees with an article, it’s right, if she doesn’t, it’s a load of crap. I beg to differ. And she hasn’t even given it a real go.
We always talk about how we should re spark the passion and compromise more etc, which is true, every couple has down periods in their relationships, but why is it always me who ends up forking out the hard yards while she thinks she is doing the same, but in different areas.
My question to everyone is, what is your opinion on this matter? Do you have a situation like this in your sex life and if so or if not, what is your advice. I would love to hear from everyone what their opinions are as her sex life is great, but mine has hit a dead end a long time ago.