Enough with the propaganda—we now have enough data that “date night” is a sham. Can’t argue with the fact that setting aside time away from domestic duties to respect (and celebrate) conjugal ones is a good idea. But sadly, at least in my house, when the designated night set aside for romance comes around, we’re out late, I’ve had a lethal combination of wine and dessert and I’m panicking that I’ll fall asleep before I can even dig out that negligee I promised I’d put on. To my husband’s chagrin, despite our best efforts, date night fails us over and over again. I was sharing this conundrum with my girlfriend Kimberely Blaine—aptly of The Go To Mom and she had a simple solution which she shared in her no nonsense, let me tell you how it’s done kind of way.
Forget date night she said, it’s all about happy hour.
Why bother with a whole weekend night (or weeknight) out if the main objective is getting home to jump into bed. And let’s face it, date night is about sex, not fine dining and good company. If this is not your intention for date night, forgive me for being presumptuous; stop reading now and move on to the next post. But if you’re with me—and date night is all about getting dressed, going out, but ultimately getting back home to rediscover what led you to shack up and procreate in the first place, read on.
According to Kimberley, happy hour is just that—an hour (or two) to get happy and get you home without too much time, money, or hastle. You don’t need an all night babysitter, just someone to pinch hit for a few hours and then it’s out for a cocktail and a bite for dinner. Kimberley likes to come home to tuck the kids into bed (then she has NO guilt whatsoever) and everyone wins. And just when I was about to jump in with “but it’s a really hard time to leave the house” she stopped me cold. “Please. Once a week, someone else can deal with the witching hour, help them with their homework and get them fed. No one is going to go hungry.” Touche. She got me there.
Another friend, Juju Chang took this Happy Hour concept and ran with it, posting a video blog about it on her own Juju juggles recently. Juju cut to the chase: moms are too tired to go on dates, stay out late and put out. And according to juju, moms are weighing in on this (offline and online), some grateful for this new approach, others inspired to share their own secrets. One mom liked the idea of happy hour but said hers took place at the beginning of the day and she preferred to call it a “coffee break.” This involved a quick round trip to do drop off of the kids at school and back home for a quick tussle in the sheets before the bed had to be made. Hey, whatever works.
Watch Juju’s video here !
By Romi Lassally of truuconfessions