What do you do when you have this gut feeling that the man you’re seeing may be also seeing other women? A phone call from a woman in middle of the night, a comment on Facebook from his ex suggesting she may not be an ex at all—the first gut reaction is to assume your territory, make sure all those other women out there know he’s taken and that he is seeing you instead, and to pick up that phone in middle of night and say, “What would you like to talk to my boyfriend about tonight?” Before you do, slow down, and don’t. If you are seeing him casually, and those other hopefuls are all over him as well, are you really going to be gaining much ground by announcing to your enemies that the competition just got stiffer? No. Instead, leave those women alone and go to the source of problems: your very own boyfriend. It does no good to chase off all women when the real problem is him, and even if you do, he will get new ones unless you fix the problem at the center of it. Your work should be your boyfriend; he needs to understand that he can go and see and date multiple women if that’s what he wants, but it will take major toll on your relationship. But if he really wants to have loving and committed relationship with you, he can’t just go around and trash it all over. You remind him that he’s one who sets the tone for how good or bad your relationship is and it’s up to him to decide on that. When you give him freedom, you shift the responsibility for quality of relationship from your shoulders to your boyfriend, and then you don’t have to do work or compete with other women, you only remain calm and composed and let him do the work. And you remind him that how your relationship with him is, is because of him. That made my boyfriend say that he only wants to be committed with me, we’re not there all the way yet, but it’s much better way of handling the situation than the alternative. This is for all the women who had their heart broken in pieces by someone they loved.