I was sitting on my couch and watching the evening news. It was the night of Valentine’s Day, meaning it was almost over. The news had too many crime scenes and tragedies, conflicts in Egypt, also the coming fight of my co-countryman, Manny Pacquaio, and the Grammy Awards. Moreover, the main attraction of this all is about the celebration of we called now a “heart’s day”! Besides all tension around the world (even here in my country), still, everyone was excited to celebrate this day and looking forward to having a great day (couples or singles)! My country is ahead of New York City by twelve hours and sixteen hours ahead of California, so we celebrated this first! And my country celebrates it in sort of activities. In Metro Manila (our country’s capital city), our policemen and armies were giving away a roses at train stations and buses to all female passengers. So sweet isn’t it?! Some of the college’s schools have their own celebration by offering songs and give roses to their female schoolmates as well! There are also celebrating by organizing a beauty pageant by male and female candidates, couples kissing in one minute (or so). In General Santos City (Manny Pacman’s home city), they are having a Love Run, not only by couples but also a whole family (remember it is a special heart’s day). As well, weddings not only for single police men and women, but also those in prison (it’s a celebration for everyone). A fireworks display and many more activities!
Okay, this story is about my own Valentine’s Day. It was not exciting actually, as my husband stayed in his homeland for work. Yes, I am truly lonely and missing him so very much! But thankfully, we now have our technologies and we can regularly keep in touch with our love ones! And right away, we can let them know our feelings without waiting for a greeting card arrive. There is email, IM, Twitter, Facebook, and more social networking. Let me bring you in on my February 14, midnight. And this time is February 13, 8:00 in the morning of my husband’s time zone. I sent him a greeting message and he answered back! It was Sunday, I know it is only the day he could do his laundry after six-day workweek, clean his apartment, do shopping, and things he could not do after his work time (which all his left time before his bedtime spending with me, emailing each other). And I let him do them first. And I will just wait on our time schedule to talk with him and I will just try to get some sleep as it was past midnight already. But my insomnia is here again. I cannot sleep yet, so I just check my FB. I have several friends working abroad around the world who are online already. But I feel so empty and lonesome today as it should be a very special day for a couple. So then, I just did some tagging on my wedding photos. And I am so happy (surprised a little too) when my husband starts commenting on our wedding photos and liking them all! It is not my intention to get his attention, but I just realize then and remember that my husband could know right away as he only uses phone application (he doesn’t have a computer). He will know the notification right away on his phone.
We then start sharing using FB and I feel my Valentine’s Day is a true heart’s day! I am very glad to hear over and over again how happy he was on our wedding day (he brings it up often on our regular daily chatting online)! It is memorable for him and one of the best things that ever happened in our lives! It is always in my thoughts the way my husband messages me about how he was very proud of me! And how he was so happy with me on our wedding day! What an accomplishment!
At last, for those years I spent on making things about me to be a great wife (I don’t want to use “perfect,” because, I know I am not a perfect one, only God is perfect in this life)! Yes, I put so much pressure myself since I entered into the world of teenagers, to be like the one of any man’s desire out there, and will be proud of me when I become his wife! I did not much enjoy my teen’s years in a word of freedom because I more concentrating to be a wonderful wife someday! And I could shout, “I did it!!”
It is fulfilling if your husband is more content and happy with you in your married life. I can feel his gladness the way he reacts every day and commented on our wedding photos on FB. He even says how happy he is that he married me and he feels so great being married with me. We wives are always curious about our husband’s thoughts about us, specially, in our marriage. It feels so good the way he cherishes our memories together! I admit that I remember some of them less and my husband can remember them all perfectly (which is kind of normal in my memory. I will just remember them clearly after a decade; they will come back after years of not remembering them. Strange, but yes). My husband always remembering them a lot, and our wedding is one of unforgettable memories forever!
I know American wedding ceremonies finish right away. Here in my country, grand weddings run more or less two hours, excluding taking pictures after the ceremony, aside in wedding reception program. My country has our tradition wedding! In the entrance of our wedding reception, one of our female elders (usually the oldest grandma) was welcoming the newlyweds, then let us sip water, and showered us with rice (can shower too when coming out from the church), and combed our hair (just few strokes). And my husband enjoyed it a lot!
I just learned from my husband about the part he hated on our wedding day. And what is that part? The requests to stand up to dance with our guests. And I did not know what was in his mind at that time. He was angry that he was disturbed from eating. He likes the food as it is new to his mouth (he keeps telling me now how he misses our food as it is far more delicious than American food)! One of the best foods he’s ever eaten! He is just wishing that they save his unfinished plate, but gone! However, he never told me this so that I get him a new one and let him eat first before we move into our next program of our wedding. (Open the biggest and the smallest gifts, slice the cake and sip a wine, pull the tie of the treasure and let the children get them, together we will set free the two white dove into the sky, dance with the guest; but before that, they need to pin some money on our wedding dresses—our tradition, and a lot of picture taking after!)
This is the thing I so love about my husband—he’s such a gentleman and a very respectful to everyone! He never shows any anger on his face, so I never notice as he just keeps smiling and looks so happy! After my husband told me this (just recently), he also told me that his anger was forgotten when he was able to dance with me at last! It was our first dance as husband and wife (as well, I want to call it my first dance with a guy, I don’t count my prom dance)! And he said that it was one of the best parts of our wedding (though the rest is best part for him), and the other best part is our first kiss as husband and wife (our first public kiss)!
I more love him! I am so in love with him actually! In the information I learned from him, I more confirmed on how madly in love he was with me. And my special heart’s day was been perfect even though we just celebrated it online! We often look back, and remember these unforgettable memories of our lives! And we more look forward our days together in a near future (so excited for his coming home soon), as together, into forever!
Happy special heart’s day my dear hubby! I love you forever! Death cannot part us!