Cosmo says that in order to add a little va-voom to her sex life, a woman should show up at her man’s apartment wearing “a trench coat … and nothing else!” Well, no offense to Helen Gurley Brown (or anyone who can rock this flagrantly flirtatious move), but most of us probably look for less exhibitionist ways to give our relationships extra oomph.
There are plenty of great beginners’ ways to spice up your sex life without jumping directly to advanced moves like stripper poles or dirty talk. Particularly before Valentine’s Day, one of these five easy maneuvers could be just what’s needed to relight, rekindle, reconnect, and make your night a little sweeter.
Upgrade Your Underpinnings
Pretty lingerie just makes a woman feel prettier—and it doesn’t have to be festooned with feathers, leathers, or laces (or cut off your circulation) to do so. Just the sight of a new set of lacy panties will surely be enough to pique your guy’s interest. To build anticipation, let him see you putting them on at the beginning of date night, so that while you’re at dinner or a movie, he’ll be thinking about when he can get his next glimpse.
Change the Scenery
Why should the bedroom get all the action? Try taking your play to a new spot in your house or apartment—the living room, bathroom, or even kitchen. A new location will make you and your partner both feel more spontaneous, and could even make you feel as if you’re acting out your own dirty movie.
Look for a New Angle
Vibrators, handcuffs, and pleasure rings aren’t for everyone, and those who have little experience with sex toys may find them intimidating to use (to say nothing of the shopping process). But that’s not to say that a few accessories wouldn’t be a welcome addition to any bedroom. Instead of investing in a cabinet full of battery-powered latex, try Liberator bedroom furniture, which allows couples to discover unexpected positions and new angles for sex. The best part? Many of these cushions, pillows, and bolsters are so unassuming, they can stay on the bed all day instead of hiding underneath it.
Cop a Feel
Even if you’re not into major PDA, there’s no reason not to engage in a little handsiness once in a while. Studies show that friendly touching increases intimacy in couples. So while you’re holding hands in a movie, let your fingers wander toward his groin. As you’re walking, don’t be afraid to give his tush a little squeeze. Tousle his hair, caress his face, or tickle his most sensitive spot. Playful and frisky touching gears you up for more intimate physical contact.
Eat Your Heart Out
They say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach—and you don’t have to ply him with oysters or lobster to get there. After all, eating is one of the most sensuous and sensory things humans can do. Although some foods have unsupported reputations as aphrodisiacs, the real fun foods are the messy, decadent ones that you eat or prepare together. Think fondue, molten chocolate cake, finger foods you can feed each other (licking up the mess is half the fun!), and any food that leaves you kneading, rubbing, shaping, sucking, and slurping.
Even women brazen enough to slip their panties into a man’s pocket had to start with small steps. After mastering the art of being subtly sexy, why not try a few masters-level maneuvers? Remember—trench coats will never go out of style.