Walking with friends is the best exercise. You benefit from the physical aspect, catch up with the latest on the social front, and if the walk is long enough you get into the deep conversation realm and cover your emotional, mental, and spiritual fitness as well. Women are all about productivity and this one of the most productive activities you can schedule for yourself!
On a hike with a girlfriend of mine recently, we drifted to the topic of how females are naturally gifted with excellent intuition but it's unfortunately wasted on account that we hardly EVER use it! Quite often even doing the opposite of what that intuition is so desperately trying to convey to us.
We can all look back and our hindsight vision is 20/20 suddenly. Why is the rear-view mirror so clear? At what point do we hear our intuitive "voice" give us specific direction and silence it? Most often it is on account of fearing we will upset someone. Here are two stories from personal friends of mine who are intelligent, common sense oriented gals who fell victim to the fear of fear and silenced their intuition. (Changing their names for privacy).
Situation # 1: "Betsy" volunteered for an organization that turned out to be pretty questionable. She arrived at the location and it resembled a scene from a horror movie. It was in the desert, with a rusty mobile home sitting directly behind the building. As she attended to her volunteer duties for the day, a man with this organization kept saying obscure things to her. He probably could sense her discomfort because as she headed to the parking lot to leave for the day, he followed her out there and said he wanted to "cleanse her ora" of jaded energy. Everything in Betsy's body and mind said, "Just get in the car. This guy is wack. Don't respond. Just GO!" But the female fear of fear (of hurting feelings in this case) silenced her intuition. She didn't want to seem rude and should she work another volunteer event with the man she didn't want it to be weird. So, she walked over to him in the empty parking lot and he opened the door to the sketchy trailer…and yes, she went in. As soon as she saw animal claws and talons all over his walls she knew she had made a horrible mistake and abruptly said, "I totally forgot I had somewhere I needed to be and don't have time for this. So sorry!" and jetted to her car. You read this and think, "Kat, your friend can't be that smart. Come on! Who would really do that?" But rest assured, when you are in the situation you will be surprised which behavior takes over.
Situation #2: "Carla" was jogging in a rural area when she noticed a car had passed her for the third time. This time the male driver stopped his car as they passed under a bridge. He asked her for directions and again the internal alarm system said, "Don't go near this car! Keep running and get to where people can see you!" but once again the fear of fear won. She didn't want to seem crazy or insult a potentially nice guy by abruptly running away. As she approached his car to clarify directions, he pulled a can of mace from his lap and sprayed her entire face. She quickly reacted and ran through a creek, cleared a fence, and ran through barbwire before ending up in a farmer's pasture where he grabbed her and got her to the hospital.
Both of my friends were extremely lucky and I tell their stories not to condemn them for poor decision making, but to show that it happens to smart women everywhere. I am the QUEEN of Court TV, 48 Hour specials, and Unsolved Mysteries so I am aware of smart decision making with the best of them and I will admit I've picked up a hitchhiker before! I was at a gas station in college when an old man approached me for a ride back to his house. I'm talking old like he walked slow kind of old so I thought "Grandpa John Doe won't hurt me." plus when someone is directly in front of you with puppy dog eyes it's hard to say no! He ended up telling me to drop him off in a field. It was odd so I called a local senior citizens home and sure enough he was a grandpa on the run. Regardless, we as females put ourselves in uncomfortable, dangerous, and emotionally damaging positions all because we are fearful we will hurt someone's feelings.
Think of a guy you've dated (or married) who really did a number on your head. You most likely saw that coming or had that little voice tap you on the shoulder at some point and told it to get lost. Have you walked into a new job situation where you knew it was a bad move but justified staying there in some way? Have you found yourself in a friendship that you know is damaging you in some sense but fear looking like a bad person for walking away?
Girls, let's utilize this "power" we have called INTUITION. It's literally like a bird being able to fly and deciding to walk everywhere. It is our gift, so let's use it to our advantage!
Your uplifting reflection is to consciously be aware and in tune with your intuition in the days ahead. Let it speak to you. Communicate with it instead of silencing it. Build trust within yourself. No one is looking after you better than YOU. Remember that!