There’s a good chance you’ve read the trending articles “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” , “The ‘Busy’ Trap” , and “All the Single Ladies”  and agreed with the sentiments, reflected on your own situation, and then continued with your routine. As a young professional in New York City addicted to the fast paced, feeling “on top of the world” lifestyle that we young ladies lead, I would have done the same. However, I’m hoping that the decisions I have made in the past few years have put me on a different track.
I moved to New York in 2006 after graduating college – a starry-eyed Southern girl ready to live the Sex and the City dream. The economy was booming, money was flowing, and I felt like a New Yorker after just a few months on the ground. Things quickly changed with the recession – the winters seemed colder and the mood in the bars (can’t afford clubs anymore) became darker as the conversation turned to discussing everyone’s Plan B. After a few short years, I was anxious for a change in my life but couldn’t figure out if that change was a new apartment, new job, or new city. After many conversations with friends, family, mentors and just about anyone who would listen to me talk – I realized it was all of the above. I was ready to leave the city and change careers, so I headed to graduate school to start anew.
If you thought things couldn’t get busier than life in NYC, try graduate school. Graduate school, for me, was an amazing two years of drinking from the fire hose (and the beer tap). I considered just about every career track, travelled the world and met inspiring people in and out of class. With half of my classmates headed to NYC and a great group of friends still in the city that I had left behind, it was hard not to consider returning myself. However, I constantly reminded myself of the reasons I had left.
One – Why Women Still Can’t Have It All. Like the article says, having both a family and career is tough. Although I am still single, I looked at New York and realized I didn’t want to raise kids in the city, and I didn’t want to commute an hour each way into the city from the suburbs. The longer I stayed in NYC, the harder it would be to start a career in another city.
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