While we are all influenced at times by how we perceive others think about us, it can become destructive when we allow it to control the way we feel about ourselves.
Mama Gena in her book, Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts states, “For most of us, our margin of self-confidence is often so slim that a drop of anyone else’s disapproval sends us into the chute of negativity and self-doubt. Self-criticism keeps us weak and malleable; it allows us to give our power away to others.”
The thoughts and feeling that you hold about yourself are what make you uniquely you and sublimely brilliant! If you give that power away to others, you lose your ability to harness your true beauty and brilliance.
The only way for you to not care so much is for you to make up your mind that you are not going to care so much. Of course this will take time, practice, discipline, and persistence. But, once you realize that you have the power to decide how you are going to react to the things in your life, you will empower yourself to live your life as you define it and the rewards will be abundant.
You will never be able to control what others think about you. Even when you feel you look good, someone may still talk about you behind your back. The only thing you can control is how you define your self-worth.
Deepak Chopra says, “You alone are the judge of your worth; and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks. There is great freedom in this realization.”
Focusing your energy on your perception of what others might think of you blocks your ability to embrace and truly love yourself. If you are not tapped into your authentic self you limit your ability to be successful and thrive.
Take a look at the successful people around you. What’s their secret? How did they achieve personal and professional success? They did so by controlling their thoughts, beliefs, and actions. These successful people understand the connection between their thoughts and the outcome in their life. They realize that their thoughts form their beliefs and their beliefs dictate their habits.
In order to allow your own self to shine, you need to listen to our own voice, think for yourself, question the world around you, and determine your own value. Allowing others to influence the way you feel about yourself devalues your self-worth. You give a part of your unique self away out of fear.
But, as you reclaim all the pieces of you, you strengthen your connection with yourself and the world. You begin to live with purpose and clarity. Your beauty shines brightly for those around you to see. In living this way, you become a beacon of beauty instead of a follower of others beliefs. But it’s up to you. Which type of person would you rather be? What type of life would you rather lead? The choice is yours.
There will always be people in our life who cause us to raise doubt about our sense of self, but no one has the power to influence the way we feel about ourselves unless we give them that power. I encourage you to hold onto your own power. Examine your strengths every day. Do those things in life that make you feel good.
Every time you practice allowing yourself to feel good, you become a little stronger, a little more courageous and a lot more beautiful.