My mom is a great cook, and this is one of the blessings that I enjoy! When mom bakes her famous Banana Chocolate cake, the obsession takes place. She usually bakes cakes in the evening, which is sad. Why? Well, because if you are a calorie-sensitive person and you choose to eat banana chocolate cake at night, your guilty conscious won’t let you sleep! (Not that much, I’d sleep with my eyes open if I had too.)
But this cake is something that I can’t keep for next morning. It usually looks, smells and also tastes so incredibly good that I can’t resist having one piece, maybe two … or you know what lets not count, just live the moment!
I wish this was how things were, only with this cake. Actually such situations are familiar to all of us; for we deal with such issues almost everyday.
You know when you are a kid you want to grow up. When you get to high school, you want to go to college. When you are in college you can’t wait to graduate and have a real job. When you are single you want a date, a lover; someone special. When you start dating you can’t wait to get engaged and then get married and walk down the aisle. And once you’ve walked down the aisle, all you want is to reverse the whole process and go backwards or even a better idea: start all over again.
Have you noticed how it is, you must have! We all have our Banana chocolate cake that we cannot wait to eat.
We end up, looking forward to see what’s tomorrow going to be like, and we miss on “now” which is actually the only thing we’ve got in the meantime!
C.S. Lewis described this best in his book Screwtape Letters. In this book Screwtape an old-aged , experienced demon, wrote letters advising his nephew “Wormwood” on how to win over the patient to their side (a young man who became a Christian early in the first pages of the book) . And this is one piece of advice Screwtape suggested, to deprive the man from every chance of enjoying his life:
“It is far better to make them (humans) live in the future. Biological necessity makes all their passions point in that direction already, so that thought about the future inflames hope and fear. Also, it is unknown to them, so that in making them think about it we make them think of unrealities.
In a word, the Future is, of all things, the thing least like eternity. It is the most completely temporal part of time—for the past is frozen and no longer flows, and the present is all lit up with eternal rays … gratitude looks to the past and love to the present; fear, avarice, lust, and ambition look ahead.”
You know, I really never thought of it this way. When I read these words I was mesmerized, simply by the fact that I have so many times dwelt on thoughts, and anxieties or maybe hopes that only belong to the future. Hoping wasn’t wrong, what was wrong was that I forgot about my present. I forgot that today is a gift.
As you earnestly wait for something to happen.. Something that you’ve waited for so long; you no longer enjoy today, because you think that there’s nothing good about today. Happiness comes tomorrow, love comes tomorrow, and questions will be answered tomorrow.
Now, how can you tell someone to enjoy today while she can barely wait for her lover to come back after a year’s departure, or a pregnant woman who doesn’t know if her child is going to survive in her womb yet another day. How can you say these words to someone who’s been waiting for years to meet “the one” or a person who has lived in such a killing routine for so long that it doesn’t seem to be getting better!
I am writing these words as I wait. I am waiting for someone. I am waiting for a better job. I am waiting for a breakthrough and hoping to accomplish many dreams that I have listed all together. So trust me, if there is someone who has the right to speak about waiting, it is me! Here!
However, you cannot just stay where you are at a certain position and claim to be waiting for the better to come soon, say, for your financial crisis to end, unless you have some reason to have hope.
I mean let’s be real! Why would you be hopeful at all? Because life is good! who said so? Some person who was at a time having a great day (which was soon over).
So I guess we agree that we should have a reason to be hopeful. And at this point everything changes.
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