Have you ever noticed how easy your day can become a bad day? If I had a nicer car, if the boy would willingly get dressed for school, if we lived in a nicer house/neighborhood, if I’d taken that other job, if I made more money, if he had returned my affection…surely then, I’d be happy. Then you look around and the same people that complained about being single, being lonely, being with the wron…g person, are still complaining about the same things…with new spouses, new partners, or the right person…See most of the grief we experience is the experience we create. You went to a lot of trouble to get the ‘right person’ so you would have the ‘right life’ only to find that a change in your circumstance wasn’t the problem, you my friend might be the problem. Keep reading.
I believe becoming okay with ourselves is the first step to feeling joy. Now whether that means accepting yourself for the little flawed person you are, or making peace for everything you thought you might be AND accepting yourself for who you are today. Try it. Look in the mirror, into your own eyes and tell yourself that you love you. Regardless if the house is a mess, the dogs will not stop barking, the baby is crying, dishes are piled up in the sink; tell yourself what you need to hear: I love me. And if it’s too awkward or too difficult, then you know that’s where you need to begin. You will never truly appreciate who you are and where you are until you accept you today. After you feel loved then tackling everything else may come easier. Love begins with self-love…’Love your neighbor as you love yourself’…God assumes that you already have self-love, the next step is to love others…If you do not: Do Not Pass Go~Do not collect $200! Most relationships will fail because one person doesn’t feel worthy of love or feels skeptical that someone could love them freely, so then trust can be tested and/or ruined…all before it started. It’s a form of self-sabotage.
When people talk about change, resolutions, becoming better, I always automatically think about internal not the external. For me, what’s going on in the inside has as much importance as what’s going on outside. Feeling at one with your spirituality, emotional state, and general perspective is as important as being fit, exercising, and being healthy. Internal healthiness will only add to external healthiness. Think about it, how many emotional eaters do you know? Their emotions get the best of them and a slippery slope begins, the inside must match the outside. I’ll encourage anyone to get right with the person on the inside, you know the one making the decisions, and trusting God enough in asking God for guidance when the inner and outer don’t match. For me, it’s prayer, reading, writing/blogging, making things that still my mind, like crafts. See working on a craft project is a process, I plan it, gather the supplies and go to work on it…while I’m working my mind is quieted to only getting the best results so that later I can complete it and have a sense of accomplishment.
I’d invite anyone to work on something that they absolutely love, complete it, and then tell me how much they appreciated the process, you’ll also have a reminder with the finished project of your progress. Take up a hobby, one you can afford, find enough concentration to use your passion, I can bet you will begin to trust yourself more and more as you continue. And friends, sometimes you’ll get the clarity it requires to make suitable changes in your life, enough to quiet that unwelcome critic that makes its appearance when you compare your life to that of others. The wealthiest people I know will usually downplay the happiness factor because they are so busy telling me what the neighbor has that they don’t.
So I could complain about not having a nicer car OR appreciate the fact that I have transportation to get where we need to go. I could complain about the place where I live or look at it as a stepping stone I needed to get where I’m going. This apartment has been a safe harbor when that’s what I needed the most, I am grateful Greg & I have somewhere affordable to live while I am getting my ducks in a row. So you’ll never hear me complain about it. When you complain, it’s like saying, ‘God, I don’t care how much you’ve blessed me…doesn’t matter, I’m unhappy’. Sorry, I’m not going out like that. I thank God for everything I’ve gone thru…you wouldn’t have recognized the person I was 2 yrs ago, 5 yrs, 10 yrs…to make me who I am today. Who I am today, the good/bad/ugly/beautiful ~it’ll take all of that to get me where I’m going. For right now, I love me. I love the son God blessed me with, and the family & friends that show up on my team day after day. I accept who I am, what I’ve done or haven’t done, and am thankful that I still get more days to make it awesome. So stop the complaining, start loving your life, appreciate all the bits and pieces so that years from now, we’re in a better circumstance, because we were able to appreciate the present and humbly realized that today was a stepping stone to what God has promised. Be blessed ♥.
I believe becoming okay with ourselves is the first step to feeling joy. Now whether that means accepting yourself for the little flawed person you are, or making peace for everything you thought you might be AND accepting yourself for who you are today. Try it. Look in the mirror, into your own eyes and tell yourself that you love you. Regardless if the house is a mess, the dogs will not stop barking, the baby is crying, dishes are piled up in the sink; tell yourself what you need to hear: I love me. And if it’s too awkward or too difficult, then you know that’s where you need to begin. You will never truly appreciate who you are and where you are until you accept you today. After you feel loved then tackling everything else may come easier. Love begins with self-love…’Love your neighbor as you love yourself’…God assumes that you already have self-love, the next step is to love others…If you do not: Do Not Pass Go~Do not collect $200! Most relationships will fail because one person doesn’t feel worthy of love or feels skeptical that someone could love them freely, so then trust can be tested and/or ruined…all before it started. It’s a form of self-sabotage.
When people talk about change, resolutions, becoming better, I always automatically think about internal not the external. For me, what’s going on in the inside has as much importance as what’s going on outside. Feeling at one with your spirituality, emotional state, and general perspective is as important as being fit, exercising, and being healthy. Internal healthiness will only add to external healthiness. Think about it, how many emotional eaters do you know? Their emotions get the best of them and a slippery slope begins, the inside must match the outside. I’ll encourage anyone to get right with the person on the inside, you know the one making the decisions, and trusting God enough in asking God for guidance when the inner and outer don’t match. For me, it’s prayer, reading, writing/blogging, making things that still my mind, like crafts. See working on a craft project is a process, I plan it, gather the supplies and go to work on it…while I’m working my mind is quieted to only getting the best results so that later I can complete it and have a sense of accomplishment.
I’d invite anyone to work on something that they absolutely love, complete it, and then tell me how much they appreciated the process, you’ll also have a reminder with the finished project of your progress. Take up a hobby, one you can afford, find enough concentration to use your passion, I can bet you will begin to trust yourself more and more as you continue. And friends, sometimes you’ll get the clarity it requires to make suitable changes in your life, enough to quiet that unwelcome critic that makes its appearance when you compare your life to that of others. The wealthiest people I know will usually downplay the happiness factor because they are so busy telling me what the neighbor has that they don’t.
So I could complain about not having a nicer car OR appreciate the fact that I have transportation to get where we need to go. I could complain about the place where I live or look at it as a stepping stone I needed to get where I’m going. This apartment has been a safe harbor when that’s what I needed the most, I am grateful Greg & I have somewhere affordable to live while I am getting my ducks in a row. So you’ll never hear me complain about it. When you complain, it’s like saying, ‘God, I don’t care how much you’ve blessed me…doesn’t matter, I’m unhappy’. Sorry, I’m not going out like that. I thank God for everything I’ve gone thru…you wouldn’t have recognized the person I was 2 yrs ago, 5 yrs, 10 yrs…to make me who I am today. Who I am today, the good/bad/ugly/beautiful ~it’ll take all of that to get me where I’m going. For right now, I love me. I love the son God blessed me with, and the family & friends that show up on my team day after day. I accept who I am, what I’ve done or haven’t done, and am thankful that I still get more days to make it awesome. So stop the complaining, start loving your life, appreciate all the bits and pieces so that years from now, we’re in a better circumstance, because we were able to appreciate the present and humbly realized that today was a stepping stone to what God has promised. Be blessed ♥.
