Julia sits across from me in my office. Her face reflects the strain she has been under for the last several weeks: her mother is dying. She is exhausted. A lifetime of confusion and loneliness in this relationship makes her realize that if ever there was a moment to make peace and express the love between them; this is it.
There is nothing quite like the end of life to make us get into the “now or never” mode.
And yet, how to do it? How to know what is to be said with out creating more of a burden for someone already in pain? Is it even fair to want to clear our unfinished business with a dying loved one?
Julia takes a leap of faith. She calls on me to help her with the transition that both her and her mother are going through. “I just wonder if there are things that need to be said,” she tells me, even though they can’t necessarily be said face to face.
With her mother’s permission, I close my eyes and “tune in” to her energy at a distance as Julia looks on expectantly. It is my intention to create an energetic link between them. Almost immediately, I realize that this is not going to work this way and that I need Julia on the massage table.
As soon as I place my hands on Julia’s feet, her mother’s energy comes through loud and clear. An imploring voice in my head says, “I’m afraid I didn’t take care of her enough!” I share this message and Julia begins crying. This short phrase sums up a childhood of feeling unprotected and left to her own resources. It is clear that her mother wished to connect through me, and it almost feels as if my hands on Julia are her mother’s way of embracing her daughter.
From this a truly beautiful, heartfelt, and healing connection unfolds as both Julia and her mother open to the possibility of a more peaceful and loving transition.
This is not traditional bereavement work. This is not even traditional mediumship work. It is merely a point of connection that allows the wisdom of the moment to come through. We all have to take a leap. In one hour we are not going to solve a lifetime of family issues, but in this time we—Julia, her mother, and I—can allow a soul connection to transcend all of that and recognize what underlies it all: Love.
Julia leaves tired, but with a clearer face. Later on she tells me that in the last two weeks of her mother’s life they were able to share their love for one another again and again, and that her mother was more able to face her departure. The day I contact her to check in is, coincidentally and most fittingly, her mother’s memorial.
The time of passing of a loved one is as much a transition for us as for them, and these special moments often serve as markers in our lives with a “before and after” sense about them. When we connect energetically with the spiritual essence of our loved ones during this meaningful time and open ourselves to the transformation of love and forgiveness on a deeper level it is an opportunity to say farewell with no regrets.