It’s a simple wish for someone, as they are busy packing the necessities of home into a small suitcase. As the one not packing, not traveling, as the one left behind, you can hope that they feel excitement and perhaps a bit of adrenaline as they prepare for a big journey to a far off destination.
The reasons behind saying “Enjoy your travels” can change several times as you watch them fold and refold the articles of clothing that they may or may not use on this adventure. As the person not going on any trip, it’s hard not to feel envy or jealousy or even sadness at saying good-by. There are so many thoughts and feelings as you realize that it’s not going to be you getting on that plane, or into that car or onto that train. You will be in the exact same town as you are right now when that person is seeing new towns and meeting new people. You will be surrounded with the familiar, albeit safe, monotony of daily life at home.
Enjoy your travels can be said with the slightest variations of tone of voice to correspond with the varying emotions. If you feel envy slowly burning in your throat, you may say those words with a higher than normal pitch as you try to swallow the burn away. You may feel the uncomfortable tingle of sadness in your ache up your arm to your neck if you know you will miss this person terribly and are secretly wishing they would turn to you, change their mind, and profess that traveling is not that important and they will stay with you instead. You may fear this unknown journey and say these words in hesitation and yet know that your fears are your own. Enjoy your travels may come out as forced and weak. You may have one hand on the door handle providing the needed stability when you feel light in the head thinking of awful scenarios that can only be created in your head. You can take a long deep breath and try to dispel any of that fear into the room and away from the person who is so excited and so wrapped up in the privilege of packing.
As you stand there trying to take that mental picture of the moment, you may see things that you never noticed before. Did you ever see that when this person is really concentrating, that they bite the inside of their mouth creating a little dimple in their cheek? You take that photo in your mind and you hold on to it a little to close. As you scan the room, smell the air and try not to blink in case you miss something, you feel that envy resurface and again you say to yourself: Enjoy your travels. For a moment, you think that this is way to formal and you wish you could be carefree and flippant. How wonderful to be that person who can just say Have a great time, Have fun, or even See you soon—but that’s not you and it’s not how you feel. You need that formality because there is an underlying ache in your stomach, which is caused by the “what-if’s” of life. Enjoy your travels keeps you separated from the other people who don’t care as much as you do. You hope that by somehow staying true to your real feelings about this departure that you are special, you are set apart from the regular people in this person’s life. You will look them in the eye when you say it. You will mean it with all your heart and you are the one who may feel the tears swell up while others just wave.
Enjoy: not “have fun,” but Enjoy, which is more personal, deeper in meaning than “have fun.” Your: This journey belongs to someone else and you make sure to respect the value of that. Travels: Nothing screams adventure and experience like travels do. If you’re lucky enough to be a traveler in life, you have seen things others have not, you have spoken to people who would have never met you before; you have heard languages and dialects of distant cultures. If you are lucky enough to be a traveler, then you have a unique vision of the world.
Enjoy your travels should be an honorable thing to say to someone you love. The guilt now creeps up from below your throat. As you watch the final items being stuffed into remaining free space, you feel guilt over the envy or jealousy. Guilt that you let your insecure mind drift into unhealthy territory rather than spend the time focusing on the person you’ll miss so much. Guilt, that you wasted good time in foolish thought. Enjoy your travels now rolls off your tongue with a genuine smile as your head is half cocked to the side and your eyes sparkle. As this person looks up to thank you for all your help in preparing for this trip, they notice that you look different. They can see in your eyes that you’ve worked through something on your own. You have changed your attitude ever so slightly so that you now understand this isn’t about you. You are not going on this trip. You will not have the adventure. You do realize, however, that you are lucky enough to know someone who will and when they get home, they will be full of wonderful stories to share just with you. You take a moment and acknowledge this with the person packing. You breath deep again and exhale the insecurity. You have control of your fear and you real it in willingly.
Enjoy your travels because I love you and I will miss you. Enjoy your travels so that you can have an adventure that will be with you for a lifetime. Enjoy your travels because I know how important it is to you and how hard you’ve worked for it. Enjoy your travels so that when you come home, you can enjoy me.