The other night I happened upon one of those shows where they chronicle the lives of a Hollywood star. This episode was about Renee Zellwegger. As I tuned in she was recounting how she came to Hollywood at twenty-five years old, after graduating University of Texas and was working as a waitress in a bar. She had left an acting career behind in Texas and came looking for her “big break” which was taking it’s time in coming. She recalls a phone conversation with a good friend, during which she was saying how much she wanted to act, that she felt somewhere deep inside of herself that this is what she was meant to do; at the same time she was questioning her move to Hollywood, wasting her degree, working in a bar …
Her friend said to her with heartfelt sincerity, “Renee you are an actress.”
As Renee repeated the words, it became clear to her, “I am an actress,” she declared.
In that moment she went from the ‘I want to be’ to the ‘I am’ and her life did change.
She won the role of Dorothy Boyd in Jerry McGuire and didn’t just melt Jerry’s heart, she captured the heart of American movie land, and the rest, as they say is history.
That switch to “I am an actress” struck me hard. How many times do we wish and hope and imagine how wonderful it would be if we were this, or that; how we just know that we are meant to be doing something, how perfect our lives would be if we were following our dreams and our hearts.
Well why are we not doing this or that? If we honestly believe that we were born to do something else, why are we not perusing it? What will it take for us to make the turn? How many excuses can we give ourselves; how many reasons can we come up with to blanket our dreams and hopes and eventually just sweep them out the door and under the mat where we step on them each time we leave the house.
What will be our “aha” moment, when we go from the wanting to the being.
One thing I have learned from working at Frame of Mind Coaching is that we are absolutely capable of making significant changes in our life. One hundred percent!
The reason so many of us are stuck in the shadows of our life, is that we are afraid to come out and be the person that is housed in our core. It’s so much easier to stay in the shadow, to follow along the path that we stumbled upon, even thought we know it’s not right. It takes a lot of guts to make changes, a great degree of inner strength, but when we do, wow, we are unchained from our bondage. Sometimes, we don’t even realize how unhappy we were until we have broken out of our ruts, and then we are overwhelmed with the delight of feeling happiness and true joy return to our lives.
“I really want to be” to “I am” signifies a very powerful shift and changes our entire mindset. It’s actually an incredible thing. Try it. Try saying the words out loud, “I am …” See how it sounds, feel how it reverberates throughout your body, enjoy the sensations and allow yourself to dream. It is when we dream and we allow ourselves the opportunity to step into that dream, that they really do come true. It’s a very powerful shift in our thinking. Try it. Let me know!
By Jacqui Markowitz