In each of our lives things happen that seemingly are senseless. They have no cause or explanation or connection to anything else in our previous experience. They just happen. Many people refer to them as coincidence. They occur all the time. Most of the events are insignificant and do not merit any consideration.
But, we, being human, are uncomfortable with coincidence. We want explanations. Our nature craves a reason. We need to know. We want to know. We are taught in elementary school that for every effect there is a cause. So, for those events that are large enough to warrant our consideration, we search for answers and a relationship to something else. We are looking for a rational cause.
When the cause isn’t obvious, we are anxious and become nervous. It just doesn’t fit into the carefully planned life that we imagine. Some people, when they can’t think of any other reason, call it fate. Maybe they are just lazy, or stupid, or just plain don’t care for a cause. But, for them, fate is an explanation they can understand and rationalize as believable.
The concept of fate is sort of a crutch that people use. It is sort of a “catch-all” explanation that soothes the conscious. It presumes that some sort of orderly plan exists, even if it is beyond our understanding. Fate then can take many forms, among which are gods, demons, or the alignment of planets and stars. Even within those categories are many subforms. For those people who believe in fate, it is infinitely preferable than coincidence.
Coincidence is entirely random. In the world of coincidence, there is no sense or logic. It is an insecure, frightening world in which anything can happen to anybody at any time for no reason. It is beyond the explanation or understanding of most people. It leaves an uneasy feeling and the urge to look further for understanding.
Humans need to understand and are always seeking answers to their questions. This drive has produced religion, arts, science, occult, and astrology. When we have no rational analysis for the events that take place in our world, we are unsettled and troubled. For those people who believe in a god who sees all and controls all, that explanation causes peace and tranquility to return to their lives.
For those people who are rationalists, and don’t believe in fate or astrology or god, they are always looking for answers to their questions. They want explanations. When they can’t find explanations that make some sort of sense, they assume they don’t know all the facts and keep asking questions. As with anything else in life, most people are a combination of both schools of thought as the spectrum of possibilities is enormous.
At some point, however, the rationalists and the believers alike must come to the conclusion that the answers to some questions just are not available. At some point they realize that they will not find the answers, and they have to just accept what is happening and move on. There will always be another event in their lives to try and understand.
These combinations of events are what makes each individual a unique person and contributes to our life experiences. We build on each one and learn and grow. There is no one way to travel, and there is no one answer that fits everything. The truly strong person knows when to ask the questions and when to move on. Humans are a highly adaptable group of individuals who are curious about their world in whatever form it may take.