Letting go is something women are entirely too familiar with. Whether it’s letting go of something we value, something we love, or even something as simple as letting go of our past. But not everything is as simple as it seems.
In my case, I am dealing with letting go of my past. This should just be a piece of cake, after all it is the past for a reason, right? I am the happiest now than I think I have ever been; I’m in love (with someone who actually loves me back, may I add), I’m getting along and spending a lot of time with my family, I’ve recently decided that I want to really get back into church and start living a different and better kind of life, and have been taking the right steps toward doing so. But, to make a better life for myself requires letting go and getting rid of some extra baggage that I’ve been carrying around for quite some time now. These changes aren’t so simple; in fact over the last few months, they have proven to be quite a task. But I have been trying and that’s what matters most.
I never wanted to be the kind of person who carries her past battles and struggles with her into the present, but that’s not necessarily something you can always avoid. When you have a past such as mine, letting go can be one of the biggest obstacles one might ever face. When you’ve been hurt in so many different ways over the years, you begin to find it harder to trust, harder to let go. You begin to let your silly emotions and insecurities run away with you, and you find yourself slowly creating a monster in something that is perfectly fine and safe.
Why is it that we as women have such a hard time with this? Why can’t we just let the past be the past and leave it at that? It’s something that I continually ask myself every day. And it’s something that I don’t really think anyone knows the answer to. But something we do have control over is how to manage these emotions and insecurities and how to learn to not let them control our lives. We are strong and can do anything we set our minds too!
First things first, you have to get rid of some of the things in your life that hurt you in the first place. No matter how good some of those things may seem now, you have to remember that they still hurt you and they have no business creeping around in your life anymore. If you let them, you’re just opening yourself up to a whole can of worms that you may not be able to find your way out of. Nip it in the bud before it’s too late! Otherwise, you may just find yourself alone and that’s never a good place to be. So if you can help it, I would say DO SO!
Take control of your life. After all, it is yours! No one else can make it happen for you. Some things seem so tough to get rid of, not because you still really care for them or want them, but because it’s what you’re used to and it’s a part of you because you lived it. But if it’s something that isn’t necessary and something that could potentially harm your future, best thing is to just rid your life of it.
I definitely don’t have all the answers, but what I do know is that all of us good people deserve happiness, and we have to stop being the ones that hurt ourselves. Because most of the time we are the ones who mess things up for ourselves. We have to learn how to take control and JUST LET GO!