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Love Is Not Supposed to Hurt!

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Love is not supposed to hurt, yet when you tell that person that you Love them they take that as their opportunity to take control of your life. It feels so right until that first time he hits you in the face and you wish that you could be somewhere else! He then says he is sorry and promises that it will never happen again and you believe it until it happens again. After repeatedly allowing the abuse, your self-esteem just goes right through the floor, and you have no idea which way to turn.

So many people are so quick to say, “I would not stay with a man who treated me that way” but unless you have actually been in the situation, be careful what you say. When your self-esteem is so low that you don’t think you will have any, you actually believe that you deserve the abuse and that no one else would ever want you, and you have no where to go. As a survivor of Domestic Violence, I am here to say that no one deserves abuse no matter what the situation is.

In May of 1995, I finally had enough after nineteen years of emotional and physical abuse, I finally said I deserve better than this and I threw everything I had into plastic trash bags and I left, because I really felt like I could stop him for good, and I new at that moment it was time for me to go, Thank God! It was not easy to start over again but looking back now, it was so worth it. For many years I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and I dealt with a lot of anger, until someone told me that I needed to forgive him, not for him, but for me so I could move on. It took a while for me to get to that point, but I am so glad that I finally did!

I have so much Love for myself and for that special man, my self-esteem is through the roof and I will never allow anyone to have that much power over me again! I now know how to read the signs and when the red flag goes up I am gone. I know someday that God will send the right man for me to Love and he will Love me as well. Finally, I just want to say you are beautiful and you deserve the best that God has for you! True Love will never hurt!


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