There are five primary needs that everyone has in common: The need for security, the need for connection, the need to be autonomous, the need to feel competent, and the need to feel worthy. Each of these needs is a core part of human nature. Today’s post is going to focus on the need for connection.
Your need for connection manifests itself as a need to experience a sense of relatedness, to belong to a community, or to experience intimacy with another person. At its root, this drive dates back to our tribal ancestors. In tribal terms, your very survival depended upon your inclusion in the group. Tribal members ate, slept, and received protection as a result of being part of a unified structure. Rejection by the clan was equivalent to death.
One Thing to Think About
The need for connection can manifest in a number of different ways, including the need to include and be included, the need to love and be loved, the need to accept and be accepted, and the need to create a sense of community. When your need for belonging and connection is satisfied, you will feel an incredible sense of well-being.
One Question to Answer
hat makes you feel connected? How are you currently meeting that need? Is there room for you to improve upon your current methods? Consider how you might enhance your current approach and enjoy an even greater sense of relatedness.
One Challenge to Take
1. Define the method you’ve adopted to satisfy your need for connectedness.
2. Identify at least one empowering and one disempowering behavior related to this need.
3. Consider how you might make the disempowering strategy more positive. How could you shift your approach while still meeting your need?
4. Commit to integrating this improvement into your life.