A Place of Yes
While searching for biographies and legal thrillers on Amazon I came across Bethany Frankel’s just released book, A Place of Yes: 10 Ways to Getting Everything You Want Out of Your Life.
I remember her saying this phrase on one episode of Real Housewives of NY, yes I watch and Bethany was one of my more ‘likeable scripted characters’ <insert shame face here> Lately I have been using this phrase in my own life so I shouldn’t be surprised at all she penned a book out of it. Smart girl.
I’m not a fan of self help books for myself because they seem too much like basic common sense and I already have that. I know what I need to do for my life…and it’s as simple as the Nike logo…JUST DO IT! But I do like the place of yes dictum. For me, adopting this philosophy allows me to jump the internal hurdles I have dealt with all my life.
I wish I were the aggressive person who sees something, wants it, and pursues it with the passion of a tiger. I think too hard about what I want and usually it’s to talk myself out of wanting it or even worse convincing myself that I either don’t deserve it or that it is too hard to achieve. I don’t have a permanent address in the place of no but I have taken long, not completely unhappy vacations there, more like an apathetic acceptance. I want to live the rest of my life with 90% of it in the land of Yes and the remaining between No and Maybe…maybe I will skydive one day but no fault on me if I just say hell no, some fear is good.
I don’t know what Bethany’s list of ten ways of getting what you want out of your life consist of but I’m sure we can all guess what we need for ourselves. I’ve created this list but as I live I’m sure some will change and others will be replaced.
I hope if you take the time to read this you add a few list of your own
I say Yes, to faith. I have had bouts with faith with myself and God. I choose to eliminate the distrust and not only have faith things will work but work my ass off to make it work. I don’t think I can have faith without the work and effort I need to make whatever it is I want to happen.
I say Yes, to my voice. My voice is my writing, my opinion, my ideas and even my singing if I want to sing. This has always been the toughest corner to turn for me because it puts me in the center to be judged or criticized but if Sarah Palin can have a voice and audience, why the hell can’t I? Yes, I know I am smarter than Sarah Palin!
I say Yes, to opportunity. I can see a door open for myself and instead of rushing through I will knock and ask if I is okay if I can enter. I know what my opportunities are. I get them more than I care to admit so, no more will I question it. I will say yes to the opportunity.
I say Yes, to my self-worth. Why do I question whether my self-worth and compare it to others? I say yes in believing that I am just as worthy of all the good the world has to offer and those things are not limited to a chosen few.
I say Yes, to the person other people see in me. I can be my own worst enemy. People see me as strong and confident. I should become an actress because I sometimes feel as the person they say is just acting it out but I know that not to be true. There are more than a few incidences in my life where I have showed the strength of a lion…or two! Let the lion live.
I say Yes, to completion. I choose to complete projects I set out to do. To finish out the year 2011 with the knowledge that I finished what I started.
I say Yes, to self admiration. Yes, to admiring my accomplishments as well as others.
I say Yes, to problems. Problems are inevitable and instead of avoiding mine I choose to deal with them right away. I have seen small problems turn into huge issues because I ignored them or just hoped wishing them away would work. I’ve seen problems occur that escalated only for them to be fixed easily and leave me thinking why didn’t I just handle it from the start instead of making it a bigger deal than it was?
I say Yes, to acceptance. Maya Angelou has the quote when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time. I choose to accept people for who they really are and deal with their presence or non presence in my life accordingly.
I say Yes, to the world. I love to travel and I do but I have never lived anywhere in the world but the U.S. I want to experience living somewhere in the world for at least a year. To absorb myself in another country, maybe that sounds more like a bucket list wish but for me it is more than that.
I say Yes!