One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself in the honor of self-love is writing your will. A gift you say? Even thinking about the contents of a will upsets people to the point that they just don’t bother. Did you know that stats show nearly 65 percent of adults don’t have a will? It’s a very hard stat to evaluate since it includes everyone over the age of the majority, and let’s face it, young adults think they will live forever and don’t even consider a will until they marry and have children—if even then. It is important to write your will so that there is an orderly transfer of property and belongings from you, the testator, to your loved ones, the beneficiaries.
I had to do this very act the other day—rewrite my will. It is not pleasant talking about yourself as if you no longer exist, but it is imperative. I believe the process to be “self-loveful!” I owe it to myself and to my loved ones to be able to say now what I cannot say once I have left this physical world. This is the gift I give to myself and to my loved ones. I made sure that all my assets and debts are organized in a manner that my family members do not have to be concerned with the problems of an unorganized estate.
There are intestacy laws for those that do not make a will but why leave your assets in the hands of a stranger? Why not allocate where and how everything you have acquired over your lifetime will go while you still have the opportunity to do so? You have worked so hard to have beautiful things for your family, but they might not be available for them once you have passed. Why would you do that to you—who worked so hard—or to your loved ones who you have made sure to provide for?
Self-love is about doing what is right for you at all times and doing good things for you that make you happy; it is about nurturing your soul and making sure that you put you first. It is about you ensuring your authenticity at all costs. Self-love is about being kind to yourself first and foremost. What better way to ensure that than by writing down all your wishes and desires to be accomplished after you have passed?
The death of a family member is something people don’t like to foresee or discuss. However, since death is inevitable, taking practical steps like making a will secures the future of your precious family members.
Self-love is like a mirror, which reflects the love you have for yourself onto others. That love will be as deep as the self-love you have gathered within you.