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Taking Command of Your Life with Feng Shui

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Here’s a real-life story about how Feng Shui allowed one client to take command of her life:

One of my recent clients—I’ll call her Elaine—was interested in a Feng Shui consultation because she wanted to improve certain parts of her life. Specifically she felt she was ceding too much control to other people, both personally and at work. She wanted to regain that control and looked forward to finding how Feng Shui could help.

Feng Shui uses many tools to diagnose a person’s space and determine how that relates to what’s happening in his or her life. After I’d analyzed Elaine’s home using Feng Shui’s three fundamental tools (the Bagua Energy Map, the Five Elements, and the balance of Yin & Yang), I suggested an additional adjustment that I thought would help her regain the control she felt she’d lost.

Her home office was arranged so that when she sat at her desk she faced an attractive view out the window. But, in looking out the window, she faced away from the entrance to the room. She was literally turning her back on the energies—positive or negative—that entered her space.

Furthermore, this arrangement meant she could easily be caught off-guard by things that might be going on in her environment but over which she’d have no control, a literal translation of the “lack of control” problem she’d called me about in the first place.

The Command Position
I advised her to turn her desk to face the door so when she’s working she’ll be sitting in what Feng Shui calls the “Command Position.”

The Command Position emerges from our instinctive need to have visible control over our environments. We humans are most comfortable when no one can sneak up on us or surprise us.

A well-set-up Command Position allows you to observe the entry to your space so you’re in the best location to deal with whatever might be coming through the door. It provides an important metaphor for being in control of your world.

Elaine followed my advice and a few weeks later told me that this simple change showed her just how much authority she’d been ceding to others. It gave her a powerful feeling of “taking command” of her life.

The Command Position is one of the simplest, most powerful tools you can use in your space, and it’s the same in any situation. Place an important piece of furniture in the room to face the doorway, but not in a direct line with the door, to give you the widest possible view of the room. You know you’re in this “power spot” when you feel most comfortably in charge of your space.

Putting the Concept to Work
As an example, consider the seat you’re likely to choose in a restaurant: across the room from the entry, with your back to a wall and at a slight angle, giving you a comfortable view of people coming in as well as your fellow diners.  

Here’s how to put this tool to work in your living space:

In your family and living rooms, put yourself in command by placing a comfortable chair or couch diagonally across the room from the entry. It’s likely to become the most well-used seat in the room!

In your bedroom, where you spend so much time and are most vulnerable, situate your bed to face the doorway, taking care that it doesn’t face it directly.

Finally, take control of your work life by positioning your desk to face the office door (have you ever seen a CEO whose desk faced away from the doorway?). This is sometimes difficult in small home offices, so if the Command Position isn’t possible use a small mirror to reflect the entry behind you.

Arranging furniture this way is so instinctually comfortable, you’ll feel the difference immediately. Take a look around and try out new room arrangements where it makes sense.

Like my client Elaine, I think you’ll discover that when you take command of your space, you’re well-situated to take control in your life.

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