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The Tenets of Personal Effectiveness: Adjust to Change

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Life is change. Nothing is static. And for many people, this reality puts them into a tailspin. Why? Because we all crave security and predictability—the one thing life is not set up to provide. When you experience change, it is normal for you to react to the possibility of losing that essence. Most of the time, reactions of this nature are based on fear and angst.

Effective people accept the inevitability of change and consciously decide how they will embrace and manage it when it arrives. The key is to identify the essential quality that you value within a specific action or experience—it’s essence—and to incorporate those qualities into the changing conditions you’re dealing with. For example, if you crave conversation and connection, and losing a job has left you feeling isolated from other people, you might consider addressing that need by broadening your social life or volunteering with a non-profit.

One Thing to Think About
Just because change may close off one route to get something you want or need, doesn’t mean you can’t still have it. Determine what the essence of that want or need is, and find alternative ways to achieve those same results. 

One Question to Answer
Does your typical response to change come from a position of strength, flexibility, and opportunity-seeking, or fear, loss, and anger?

One Challenge to Take
Answer the following questions:

1. What is your typical response to change?

2. Think about something in your life that is in the midst of change or that will change very soon. What is the essence of the circumstances that have changed or are about to be modified? How does that essence serve you?

3. What could you do to incorporate this essence in a way that serves you in the new situation you’re dealing with?

4. Based on what you’ve discovered, what actions must you take to successfully adjust to change? 

Originally published on Compass


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