Ultimately, the cultivation of self trust is an emotional, spiritual, and practical practice of strengthening our capacity to look within and discover what really matters to us; coming to deeply know what our talents and limitations are; learning how to access our mental, emotional, and spiritual resources; and tracking our patterns of success so that we can make choices that come from the inside and therefore offer the greatest possibility for happiness and self fulfillment.
In order to do this, we must engage in self-reflection, the process of looking at ourselves honestly without minimizing our gifts—oh, that old thing—or beating ourselves up for our learned self destructive patterns. From this reflection, we gain invaluable gifts of the heart and soul: self-awareness: the accurate assessment of who we are and what we care about; self-acceptance: the embracing of who we are in all our complexity; and self-reliance: the ability to use what we know to get the results we want in our lives.
The good news is that we begin right where we are, as we are. It doesn’t matter how much the world has told you you’re wrong, stupid, screwed up. You don’t need to bring anything except all of who you are because every scrap can be used on behalf of what you want in your life and who you want to become. And the rewards are immense.
I’ll be writing more on this theme this month, on how you can discover your gifts and use them even more. Stay tuned!