I have come up with the best weight loss plan ever! I hate to sound like an infomercial here, but the best weight plan is happiness. Seriously! Now, I know that some are looking at this and saying, “this chick has lost her marbles.” Think about it though; when are you able to lose weight? When I am happy and motivated is when it works for me.
Work with me here, I know I sound like a woman who has no struggles and has a perfect life and can easily do this, but I am far from it. I have three kids, a husband, financial problems, I’ve had multiple miscarriages, and had severe depression. I don’t say this to get pity, but to show that I have just as many hurdles to jump as the next person. I have been to the bottom and wanted to quit, but had just one little spark of something that kept me from giving up completely; I couldn’t tell you what it was, but there was something there that just would not allow me to let go.
So, here I am; what do I do now? I have read diet books, marriage books, and self-help books too. The one common theme I found in all of them: not giving myself the option to let go. Life is not just one problem at a time, so I have learned to deal with one at a time. I had a hard time getting out of bed, so I gave myself something important to do as soon as I got up so my mind would not have the option to not get up; I simply had to be up. Once I get up in the morning, I use a bath crayon (I took one from my kids) and made myself two lists on my bathroom mirror; one is five things I am proud of in myself and the other list is five things I am grateful for. When you start your day thinking of good things, the easier it is to keep your day on a positive note.
I tend to have negative thoughts of myself a lot so I have made a deal with me; each time I have a negative thought of myself I have to get up and do something productive for five minutes. Now, I can talk until I am blue in the face, but the only way this works is to be accountable to myself. I have to be completely honest with myself and face that I am the only thing standing in my way.
I don’t always get along with my husband and when I find myself not liking him at any particular moment, I stop and do something nice for him as if it was the last thing I was ever going to be able to do for him. I know that this doesn’t seem like it has anything to do with weight-loss, but it does; when I go out of my way to do something nice for someone else, I am proud of myself, happy for making someone else happy and I am so busy doing whatever it is that I almost forget about what is making me upset.
The final thing I have done to make me happier and in turn lose weight is turn off my television. I have made it a rule to not turn on the TV until after 5 p.m. Instead, I have on music all day and since I have nothing to sit and get hooked on, I don’t sit as much. Having the TV off has also helped my mood because I don’t get sucked into the negative aura that fills the world in that little box. The whole world has become obsessed with all the bad things and forgotten about the good, so I have stopped listening to them and their negativity. My TV is off all day and I only have my own thoughts to focus on and not what others have given me.
All this information may seem random and it is, but the one thing to remember is that when you focus on good (even if you have to force yourself to do it) you will generally be happier. When you are happier, you move around more, eat less due to being busy and not being bored, and the people around you are happier which in a huge circle makes you happier even more. I hope that this helps someone (even if it is just one person) to not only loose weight, but to become a happier person all around. Losing weight can make you happier, but if you just let in all the negative, the weight and sadness will consume you over and over again. Here’s to creating happiness! Cheers!
P.S. Laughing burns calories so why not find something to laugh about!