“The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.” —Ben Stein
Many of us can describe ourselves as control freaks. I believe that every human being craves control, especially when it comes to our bodies. We want control so badly we are willing to do ridiculous diets and go to extreme measures to lose weight. However, these methods that we gravitate toward require all of our control, and our bodies work with no control.
Can you imagine if you had to remember to breathe all day? Or digest your food? Our bodies are so intelligent—so why do we control our way through weight loss? I believe that all of you can achieve a level of balance with control that will totally rock your world, and let me tell you how!
First of all, remember the discussion we had about hormones. All of the information our bodies translate on the hormonal level is completely out of our control. What we can control, however, is our attitude and feelings toward food and exercise.
I told you that I am extremely imperfect.
This means that I stay in my ideal body while still having days when I overeat, days when I forget to eat slow and breathe, emotional eating episodes, and even months without yoga. So what’s the difference between now and two years ago when I had a weight problem? Control.
Two years ago I felt that food and exercise controlled me. I felt powerless as the pantry called me back into the kitchen three, four, or ten times! I felt like I had no other option when my body wanted to rest but I still had to get in my sixty minutes of cardio for the day. I felt extremely out of control when no matter what I did, that scale kept moving up. Now, if I overeat, it’s completely in my consciousness and control. I look at it lightly and without judgment. I trust my body so much that I believe I will be fine, ice cream and all.
Begin looking at your emotions toward food and exercise. Start shifting your levels of control by making a decision to overeat before you do it. Get excited about your binge eating experience. Give yourself permission to skip the gym or do five minutes instead of sixty. As you do this you will find it to be almost humorous. It’s pretty silly to binge eat with full consciousness and before long it will make its way out of your life.
When it comes to control there are two very important lessons:
- Give up control when it comes to your body and how it manages to keep you alive and well.
- Gain control of your attitudes, beliefs, and feelings around food and exercise.
After all, you wouldn’t go up to a lawyer and say, “I don’t think you know what you are doing so I am going to read an article on law and fight my own case.” So why do we argue with our bodies and look to the dieting industry to help us lose weight?
When I work with my clients I educate them on how to live like a naturally thin person does, and then help them adopt the attitudes, beliefs, and feelings of a naturally thin person. Your body does all the rest for you!