First off, I must say that each and every one of you all have the strength and support you need already—you just have to find it.
Without inner support, you will often fall short of your goals. Many people show their lack of inner support with sentences that include “can’t” in them. I can’t run a marathon, I can’t lift that weight, I can’t eat healthy…. With those negative thoughts, you are absolutely right, you are helpless and you can’t do anything. It is time to go ahead and throw in the towel, hire someone to spoon feed you, and give you a sponge bath. Sound good?
Hopefully, that is not the path you look forward to taking. It is time to start having conversations with yourself about where you want to go in life and how you want to get there.
1. Start Slow: Take baby steps. Trying to jump into action immediately will not always work for all of you. Find little ways to support yourself. The first one can be eliminating the word “can’t” from your vocabulary.
2. Work backwards: If your goal is weight loss, close your eyes and envision yourself at your goal weight. What will you be thinking, doing, feeling? Feel the emotions, feel amazing in your skin; then open your eyes and start to find ways to incorporate all of those emotions right now.
3. Stay Positive: Changing your inner vocabulary will absolutely help you to reach your goals. If you honestly don’t think you can run a marathon, try telling yourself, “I’m learning how to run a marathon.” This sounds much better than “I can’t.” I don’t think you can argue with the verb to learn. Try switching all of your cant’s into learning processes.
Your inner support system in already in place. It is waiting patiently for you to tap into it and move forward to reach your goals, one baby step at a time.