Not all of this research I agree with, these are just some of the stud­ies done on birth mother’s grief (there are more but not many) Don’t let one study deter you in any way from... Read more >>

My daughter sends me a text-message of her sonogram. I could be looking at a black and white peanut, or a shrimp, or a tiny alien, if I didn't know better. I cup my grandchild in the palm of... Read more >>

 “I want to go home,” my daughter whispers, and for a moment I fight the dizzying urge to shout STOP NOW TURN THIS CAR AROUND AND TAKE US BACK QUICKLY TO SOMEPLACE SAFE. But I take a... Read more >>

March is more than the month of basketball madness in my world, it’s the month of –cha days. Cha days? Met-cha. Gotcha.  The vocabulary of an adoptive parent. No talk of dilation,... Read more >>

We as humans have overcome multiple endings and beginnings and everything in between since as far as we can discover. We have seen triumphs and falls and have advanced in technology, education,... Read more >>

If you are faced with an unplanned pregnancy and you are not able to raise the child and you do not know what to do, you should place the child up for adoption. Do not choose abortion. The child that... Read more >>

An old penpal, also an adoptee, reminded me that this week marks the 35th anniversary of my arrival into the U.S. and my family. At four months of age, I was flown out Saigon, along with a few... Read more >>

Having the same color eyes as your grandfather or your mother’s sense of humor… these are connections most of us take for granted. Children who have been adopted have to find their own connections. Read more >>

Unfortunately, the Adoption Expense Tax Credit as it currently stands is scheduled to “sunset” (as in, ride off into) beginning December 31, 2010. Actually, this credit is one of a host of... Read more >>

Several years ago, when the Tongginator was two-and-a-half, a man chased me down in the parking lot of a popular bookstore to ask me, “Where is she from?” A rather awkward conversation... Read more >>