North Americans have been called one of the world’s least tactile people; we hold, hug, pat, stroke, fondle, and caress each other much less often than do other folks. Psychologists have... Read more >>

My client asks me, “Well, what is ‘real love’ anyway? Is it two people making out? I am not sure I have ever seen it. And if you don’t even know what it looks like, then love... Read more >>

I am sitting in a restaurant shamelessly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. “People who expect all this woo woo stuff—love and closeness in marriage—are out of their... Read more >>

Unhappy couples always tell me that they fight over money, the kids, or sex. They tell me that they cannot communicate and the solution is that their partner has to change. “If Mary would just... Read more >>

So love is illogical, random, and mysterious, yes? Not any more. We have cracked the code. In the last few years, social scientists and therapists who practice emotionally focused therapy (or EFT)… Read more >>

Sex often draws us into a relationship and then helps keep it alive. But what is “good” sex? If you look at the images that bombard us every day from magazines and movies, good sex is... Read more >>