When Steve McQueen directed his first feature film, Hunger in 2008, whether he realized it at the time or not, he started one of the most creative collaborations between a director and actor in years.... Read more >>

I just started reading Brene Brown’s book I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power. Brene is a “shame researcher,”... Read more >>

Eradicating Shame, Blame, and Toxic Niceness: What am I talking about? Shame is what we feel when we think something inside of us is inherently wrong. Eradicating shame is done... Read more >>

Shame is the painful belief that a person is defective by their very existence, and is the secret weapon of sabotage against personal success. Essentially, shamed is a response that results from our... Read more >>

I once read a statistic that said many people die each year choking in restaurant bathrooms. Apparently, people in public places are often embarrassed that they are choking and they run to the... Read more >>

The impact of cultural blockage on women’s lives cannot be underestimated. For to the degree that we accept—and abide by—the rules of socially invasive, and false, doctrine about who... Read more >>

I was sitting at the stoplight trying to block the sounds of Twista from the car next to me by cranking the David Gray on my stereo. It was futile. My oldest son was in the car seat behind me. He and... Read more >>

Within an hour of my leaving the police station my twin sister went on a twenty-four hour reign of terror  sending voice, emails and text messages threatening to hunt me down and take my life.... Read more >>

“Rape is considered a crime so unspeakable that its victims are rendered mute and cloaked in protective anonymity. As victims we carry our memories with us for the rest of our lives. We also... Read more >>

One of the most common forms of control is shame. It can be a little difficult to see how feeling ashamed is a form of control. Let’s start by reviewing how core shame—the false belief... Read more >>