My story begins with a toilet being flushed. I was the item in that toilet. When the guy I thought was the love of my life dumped me, I was devastated. And I do mean devastated, in the most literal sense – my life totally fell apart. (If you’ve ever had that kind of breakup, you know what I mean. We’re talking hot mess here.) I didn’t know what to do, where to turn, who to talk to. For a few months, I did nothing – I just indulged in the pain and depression. Slowly, though, as more time began to creep in between The Event and The Present, I became a little less hysterical, slightly more logical. I was still sad, but now I was sad AND I wanted answers – to find some reason why my relationship had failed. What was it about me, him, or both of us that had turned a beautiful flourishing love into a dried-up dead thing that made me cry all the time? I picked myself up off the floor and became a woman on a mission. I sought out every possible resource on men, women, love, biology, psychology, and relationships. Attended classes, seminars, and every relationship expert’s workshop I could get to; read every relevant book I could get my hands on. I wasn’t sure what I would find or whether it would even help me, but I just knew I had to keep going, keep learning. And it turns out, oh my god, was I in for a revelation. At some point, between learning things that radically changed my viewpoint and talking to dozens, sometimes hundreds of women each month, it hit me: Wow. If only I had known some of this stuff before I began that relationship, I could’ve avoided a great deal of suffering. I heard so many women say the same sentence to me, too – “If only I knew at your age!” The light bulb went on. I realized it is completely possible to insure yourself in love. You don’t have to walk around out there unprotected! With knowledge, acceptance, positivity and a lot of patience, you can actually create a better relationship-self and protect against future heartache. Best of all, once you know, you will finally see how to get what you need – making your relationships way more enjoyable and fulfilling. I decided to launch this site as a resource for others, so I could share the insanely useful insights I’ve gained and help more women become relationship-ready. With any luck, my hard-learned lessons in love may be useful to you – even saving you some frustration and future heartache. Thank you for reading! Xox, Lindsay ABOUT LINDSAY Lindsay Kriger is a New York University grad with a B.A. in Psychology. She has trained with the PAX Mastership and Leadership Program, taught by internationally recognized Relationship Expert Alison Armstrong, and at 22 is the program’s youngest trainee to date. Lindsay has attended numerous seminars on male-female relationships and partnership-building, establishing herself as a relationshipologist and dating guru for young women. She lives in New York City with her dog, Harvey.
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